Here is what it suggests for ladies who are on the market but don't really feel like being on the market but like to be active and busy. I approach it as more of a micro-bucket list. I will elaborate on most of these for entertainment's sake, but I'll X off all of the items I think I've done anyway.
To Build Your Confidence…
1. Go to a movie alone. One time I went to meet friends at E Street Cinema for a movie, and I couldn't find them because there is no cell service down in their theaters, so I sat down to see "Waiting for Superman" which I had wanted to see and was almost done in theaters. But, then they found me, and I watched "Fair Game" with them, and it was fun. So, I haven't done this, but I came close and would be fine with doing this.
2. Lift weights. I swim. It's free for DC residents and my current financial situation (the rent is too damn high) does not really allow much for a gym membership. I'll stick to the chlorine routine, thank you.
X3. Try surfing, water-skiing, or some activity you don’t already know how to do. Could be riding a bicycle. Boxing!
X4. Take out the trash, set a mousetrap, do your taxes, build a bookcase. I take out the trash, and just last night I killed a spider in my kitchen (first by yelling and then by wadding up paper towels and going in for the kill).
5. Live alone, or at least move apartments in NYC without the help of family.I will live alone when the rent is not so damn high.
6. Train for (and finish) a huge physical test like a half-marathon. USMS does a one hour swim during the month of January. I'm doing it. Half an "X" for this one... >
X7. Go to a scary doctor’s appointment by yourself. So far, thank God, I have not been critical enough to merit a scary doctor's appointment. But I have gone to the doctor by myself like a big girl and got a shot. That's pretty scary for me. I rocked this one.
8. Quit your job. It feels so good to take a job and shove it (and not be affecting anyone else’s livelihood). Not on your life. Have you looked at the jobless rates right now? I will strategically transfer careers when the correct opportunity presents itself.
9. Fly to a foreign country by yourself. I like to travel. Lots. I fly by myself all the time and have since I was, what, 11? Flying to Hawaii from DC is a chore, but since it's not a foreign country, I'm going to play by the rules and not X this one off.
X10. Learn to stand up for yourself.This is not a problem for me in any way, shape, or form. As a matter of fact, I could probably benefit from learning to let things slide from time to time.
1. Go to a movie alone. One time I went to meet friends at E Street Cinema for a movie, and I couldn't find them because there is no cell service down in their theaters, so I sat down to see "Waiting for Superman" which I had wanted to see and was almost done in theaters. But, then they found me, and I watched "Fair Game" with them, and it was fun. So, I haven't done this, but I came close and would be fine with doing this.
2. Lift weights. I swim. It's free for DC residents and my current financial situation (the rent is too damn high) does not really allow much for a gym membership. I'll stick to the chlorine routine, thank you.
X3. Try surfing, water-skiing, or some activity you don’t already know how to do. Could be riding a bicycle. Boxing!
X4. Take out the trash, set a mousetrap, do your taxes, build a bookcase. I take out the trash, and just last night I killed a spider in my kitchen (first by yelling and then by wadding up paper towels and going in for the kill).
5. Live alone, or at least move apartments in NYC without the help of family.I will live alone when the rent is not so damn high.
6. Train for (and finish) a huge physical test like a half-marathon. USMS does a one hour swim during the month of January. I'm doing it. Half an "X" for this one... >
X7. Go to a scary doctor’s appointment by yourself. So far, thank God, I have not been critical enough to merit a scary doctor's appointment. But I have gone to the doctor by myself like a big girl and got a shot. That's pretty scary for me. I rocked this one.
8. Quit your job. It feels so good to take a job and shove it (and not be affecting anyone else’s livelihood). Not on your life. Have you looked at the jobless rates right now? I will strategically transfer careers when the correct opportunity presents itself.
9. Fly to a foreign country by yourself. I like to travel. Lots. I fly by myself all the time and have since I was, what, 11? Flying to Hawaii from DC is a chore, but since it's not a foreign country, I'm going to play by the rules and not X this one off.
X10. Learn to stand up for yourself.This is not a problem for me in any way, shape, or form. As a matter of fact, I could probably benefit from learning to let things slide from time to time.
To Be Able to Look Back and Say “I Had Fun”…
X11. Witness something once-in-a-lifetime. I keep a list of "things that would be on my bucket list except that I've already experienced them". I'm pretty good at finding these opportunities.
X12. Revel in being able to watch all the reality TV you want. I'm going to count this, but with an asterisk (*). I don't have TV channels, and I don't like reality TV. This would be more like torture for me. I do, however, have Netflix. Enough said.
X13. Get drunk during the day, just because you can. Day drinking is not fun for me, but alas, I have done this on more than one occasion because sometimes it just has to be done.
X14. Go on a date with someone who actually makes you nervous.
X15. Go out with an older man who takes you somewhere nice and makes you feel like a million bucks. Um, not a million bucks. How old are we talking here? Gross. I like to keep it in my generation. But I appreciate when I am appreciated.
X16. Go out with a guy who makes you laugh ‘til it hurts. Kenny, you win.
To Get Perspective…
X17. Be a good wingwoman. It’s not always about you. It's important to be a good friend.
X18. Chill with your widowed and single grandma. She knows “alone”! I love hanging out with both of my grandmas. And I like hearing them tell of their youth and how they came to make the decisions in life that they did. Stellar women.
X19. Volunteer. I'm big on volunteering, though I don't make nearly enough time for it.
To Make You Appreciate the Next Guy…
X20. Do at least one Valentine’s Day alone.Glitter, hearts, candy... single or taken, I dig this day. It's so dang pretty!
21. Attend a wedding (or 15) alone.
22. Date the creeps. You’ll really value the nice guys afterward. Can I amend this to say "date the nerds, they are the nice guys"? (I think people in touch with their inner nerd are fantastic, for the record.) I will not go on a date with a guy who creeps me out. I can value a nice guy without having to feel unsafe with a creeper.
To Make You Feel Sexy and Attractive…
X23. Buy yourself some flowers. Thank you, Eastern Market.
X24. Invest in a LBD (little black dress) and some sexy stilettos. Done and done.
25. Sit at a bar by yourself and drink a martini. How very "Sex and the City" of them. There are a billion things I'd rather do alone before drinking alone.
X26. Buy something frivolous and expensive that you LOVE wearing. See #24 above. 2 birds with one stone. Woo hoo, I'm efficient!
To Make the Most of Your Free Time…
27. Finish all your schooling if you can. Learning is an ongoing life process. Bachelor's degree will suffice for now.
28. Throw yourself into something time-consuming, like learning a foreign language. You may not have time to do this again until you retire and the kids are off to college. I'm in the works... more on this at a later date.
To Make Yourself a Better Partner in the Future…
X29. Make a list of all your faults. It's a mental list, but I'm counting it. I'm also a work in progress on this.
30. Learn to cook well. Not my strong suit, but I have started planning my meals for the week. I shall be the Yan Can Cook in no time.
X31. Get some hobbies. Something’s gotta keep you occupied—plus it’ll make you seem interesting. Swimming, arts and crafts with Emma, reading, blogging, etc
32. Let your married friends edit your online dating profile. Um, first I'd need a profile. This is for people who are on the market and are concerned with being off the market.
X33. Get your finances in order. Easy. Step one, pay check is direct deposited. Step two, write a rent check. Step three, finances are in order as balance is even.
To Appreciate Being Single…
34. Babysit someone’s baby for an hour. I have babysat babies many times, but not recently. Hey Rachel, can I book a trip to Phoenix soon?? :)
35. Help a friend through her divorce or a bad break-up. I hope that no one has to go through a divorce, and I am here for anyone with a bad break up, but I don't wish for that to happen to anyone either.
X36. Host a girls-only night. I think some coupled-up women forget how much we need each other. If there is one thing we're good at, it's getting together for girly time.
X11. Witness something once-in-a-lifetime. I keep a list of "things that would be on my bucket list except that I've already experienced them". I'm pretty good at finding these opportunities.
X12. Revel in being able to watch all the reality TV you want. I'm going to count this, but with an asterisk (*). I don't have TV channels, and I don't like reality TV. This would be more like torture for me. I do, however, have Netflix. Enough said.
X13. Get drunk during the day, just because you can. Day drinking is not fun for me, but alas, I have done this on more than one occasion because sometimes it just has to be done.
X14. Go on a date with someone who actually makes you nervous.
X15. Go out with an older man who takes you somewhere nice and makes you feel like a million bucks. Um, not a million bucks. How old are we talking here? Gross. I like to keep it in my generation. But I appreciate when I am appreciated.
X16. Go out with a guy who makes you laugh ‘til it hurts. Kenny, you win.
To Get Perspective…
X17. Be a good wingwoman. It’s not always about you. It's important to be a good friend.
X18. Chill with your widowed and single grandma. She knows “alone”! I love hanging out with both of my grandmas. And I like hearing them tell of their youth and how they came to make the decisions in life that they did. Stellar women.
X19. Volunteer. I'm big on volunteering, though I don't make nearly enough time for it.
To Make You Appreciate the Next Guy…
X20. Do at least one Valentine’s Day alone.Glitter, hearts, candy... single or taken, I dig this day. It's so dang pretty!
21. Attend a wedding (or 15) alone.
22. Date the creeps. You’ll really value the nice guys afterward. Can I amend this to say "date the nerds, they are the nice guys"? (I think people in touch with their inner nerd are fantastic, for the record.) I will not go on a date with a guy who creeps me out. I can value a nice guy without having to feel unsafe with a creeper.
To Make You Feel Sexy and Attractive…
X23. Buy yourself some flowers. Thank you, Eastern Market.
X24. Invest in a LBD (little black dress) and some sexy stilettos. Done and done.
25. Sit at a bar by yourself and drink a martini. How very "Sex and the City" of them. There are a billion things I'd rather do alone before drinking alone.
X26. Buy something frivolous and expensive that you LOVE wearing. See #24 above. 2 birds with one stone. Woo hoo, I'm efficient!
To Make the Most of Your Free Time…
27. Finish all your schooling if you can. Learning is an ongoing life process. Bachelor's degree will suffice for now.
28. Throw yourself into something time-consuming, like learning a foreign language. You may not have time to do this again until you retire and the kids are off to college. I'm in the works... more on this at a later date.
To Make Yourself a Better Partner in the Future…
X29. Make a list of all your faults. It's a mental list, but I'm counting it. I'm also a work in progress on this.
30. Learn to cook well. Not my strong suit, but I have started planning my meals for the week. I shall be the Yan Can Cook in no time.
X31. Get some hobbies. Something’s gotta keep you occupied—plus it’ll make you seem interesting. Swimming, arts and crafts with Emma, reading, blogging, etc
32. Let your married friends edit your online dating profile. Um, first I'd need a profile. This is for people who are on the market and are concerned with being off the market.
X33. Get your finances in order. Easy. Step one, pay check is direct deposited. Step two, write a rent check. Step three, finances are in order as balance is even.
To Appreciate Being Single…
34. Babysit someone’s baby for an hour. I have babysat babies many times, but not recently. Hey Rachel, can I book a trip to Phoenix soon?? :)
35. Help a friend through her divorce or a bad break-up. I hope that no one has to go through a divorce, and I am here for anyone with a bad break up, but I don't wish for that to happen to anyone either.
X36. Host a girls-only night. I think some coupled-up women forget how much we need each other. If there is one thing we're good at, it's getting together for girly time.
This post is like a mix between those surveys that used to fly around in junior high and using someone else's blog entry to create my own blog entry. Creativity abounds!
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